Gratitude

A video that says it all.  Gratitude for all that we already have and for those around us.
It changes everything.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nj2ofrX7jAk&feature=youtu.be

Peace

I wish you peace and happiness through this holiday season.
May the new year keep you healthy and safe.
How ever you choose to celebrate, I hope that you find yourself surrounded by joy and love.
All the best to you and yours.
Nicolette

Some Xmas Spirit at Kmart?

This is a wonderful story of generosity found in an unexpected place.

http://news.yahoo.com/anonymous-donors-pay-off-kmart-layaway-accounts-221000605.html

A View From Above

Today is the first Sunday of Advent, and as a very lapsed Catholic, I'm a bit torn about this celebration.  My mom used to light Advent candles on the 4 Sunday's prior to Christmas.  As a child, I saw this as the count down to Christmas, and felt the anticipation build for the 'big event'.  The reverence of the celebration was somewhat lost on me then. 

So, many years later, while reading the local newspaper, I came across this article and it got me thinking about the meaning of Advent again.  It speaks of Hope, Peace, Joy and Love.  Those feelings are cross-cultural, non-denominational and what we all long for in our lives, especially this time of year.  Reading this, I felt inspired to think more deeply about the ritual, about this season, and about how and where I experience Hope, Peace, Joy and Love in my life.  

http://www.vancouversun.com/life/Fighting+against+dark/5772198/story.html

I particularly liked this quote from Emil Brunner.

“What oxygen is to the lungs, such is hope to the meaning of life”

Shortly after reading that article, I received an email from someone who follows my Blog, with a link to the most amazing photos of our beautiful planet.  It is exquisite and moving, and looking at these photos reminds me that there is so much to be hopeful for.  Looking at the Earth from this perspective, it's clear we are all one and we all really have similar dreams and desires.  We each long for a deeper connection and for Hope, Peace, Joy and Love.

http://triggerpit.com/2010/11/22/incredible-pics-nasa-astronaut-wheelock/

I don't have an Advent wreath, but I do have candles, so I'm going to light one today and think about all of the things I feel hopeful for.

Gabrielle Gifford's miraculous recovery

An inspiring story of courage and determination, love and faith.
It reaffirms that we are capable of amazing things.

Gabrielle Gifford's miraculous recovery continues.

http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Entertainment/20111115/giffords-interviews-111115/

http://bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/2011/11/15/gabrielle-giffords-painful-but-miraculous-comeback-after-shooting/rxNlwB7X6BXrCDjrxOLboK/story.html

If you are in the US, you can see the entire story here:
http://abc.go.com/watch/2020/SH559026/VD55153303/gabby-giffords--mark-kelly-courage-and-hope

Simple Inspiration

We can find inspiration everywhere in the everyday.  It's doesn't have to be a thunderclap or something that knocks us off our feet.  Yes, it can be a deep and enriching moment of wonder, but it can also just be something that makes us smile or recognize a connection with someone or nature.  Sometimes it ignites curiosity and creativity, or it is that awesome moment of AHA.  But, it can simply be the joy of walking through crunchy autumn leaves, or that warm feeling of inner-knowing when something is just right.

Often inspiration arrives when we least expect it - all we have to do is be open to the experience.

Here are a few things that I found inspiring enough to share.  The photos are from recent walks in the city of Vancouver, the video was sent to me today.

 Photo by V Gray

http://vimeo.com/31158841

What inspires you?  Stay curious and open to inspiration in what ever form it takes.   It's just waiting for you to notice.

Thanksgiving

This year, Thanksgiving occurs in Canada on October 10th.

So, to celebrate, I encourage you to say a deeply felt, genuine 'Thank You' to at least one person, on each of the next 3 days.  Look them in the eye, and say 'Thank You' in a way that you can be sure they've heard you and that you mean it.   Elaborate on why you are grateful, if it feels right.

Notice how the person receiving the thanks responds; how their face brightens, posture straightens, and attitude lightens.  Like a flower responding to sunshine, people blossom when they feel acknowledged and appreciated.

Those 2 simple words, spoken from the heart, can make such a positive difference to both the person hearing them and the person speaking them.

Happy Thanksgiving!

To hear for the 1st time

Sometimes we don't really appreciate what we've got until it's gone.  Then, there are stories that touch us and remind us of how fortunate we are.  This news article and video showed up today and I had to share it.  Watching the young woman in the video respond to hearing sound (and her own voice) for the first time is beautiful.   It's a modern day miracle.  I'm inspired by her and by the many, many people who had a hand in creating the technology that gave her a sense most of us take for granted. 


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/30/sara-churman-deaf-woman-_n_989220.html?ir=Canada

What are some of the things you love to listen to?  Laughter, music, birdsong, the sound of children playing, or rain gently falling.  Perhaps it's kind words from a friend or your name said with love.  For a moment, imagine not being able to hear those things.  What would that be like?  Then, find yourself really listening, and appreciate that you can.

Gratitude

If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.
Meister Eckhart

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/m/meister_eckhart.html 

Say It Now

If you love someone – tell them. Say it now.

If someone is important to you – tell them. Say it now.

Waiting to express kind or loving words until a later date could mean that person never hears them, and you will always regret not having said them when you had the chance.

Life is too short to delay telling someone you love them. Say it now. 

And, while we're on the subject.  If you are waiting for the right time to 'do that thing you've always wanted to do' – Do it now.

Connect with Nature

Living in Vancouver, I take nature for granted.   Even though I'm surrounded by both ocean and mountains, I've been so wrapped up in everyday stuff, I think I'd forgotten how beautiful the place I live is.

Yesterday, I spent the morning in an ocean kayak.  It was peaceful being so close to the water, with the warm September sun on my shoulders, feeling the salt water spray on my skin and inhaling the fresh, clean ocean air.  I felt rejuvenated and connected; like I had come home.  And then I began to wonder why the ocean has such a powerful pull.   Why does the ocean have such a strong affect on us? It's more than the salt water, the fresh air, the rhythm of its movement, or its immensity.

Nature has this way of putting things in perspective. When I'm standing at the ocean (or floating on it), I realize my significance and insignificance at the same time. It feels like I'm part of something bigger, and yet, I also realize that life will continue with or without me. That's humbling, and yet, strangely liberating.

Where is your favourite place in nature? Where do you feel the strongest connection with the earth, with nature? Is it the ocean, the mountains, the desert, the prairies, the forests?

I encourage you to spend some time close to (or in) nature. If you live in a city, find a park or a garden and just sit, close your eyes and listen, breathe deeply, then open your eyes and really look at what is around you. Begin to notice the birds, the bugs, the plants, the air and how it all fits together. Then notice how you fit in with it, too. You do. We each do. Connect with nature some how and notice how it makes you feel to be part of something so spectacular and beautiful.

Unplug

A few weeks ago, my husband and I went on a mini-holiday. It was so lovely to get away from the city.  We spent a few days in a beautiful location, with perfect, sunny weather and we added a little something extra.

We decided to 'unplug' while we were away. No phone or TV, not even internet (though the place had WIFI).

I was amazed at how easy and liberating it was to unplug. It wasn't until Monday, when I went on-line, that I really noticed how much I had enjoyed being free.

What did we do to stay busy? We read books, and went for a hike, swam in the pool, sipped fine wines, had some terrific conversations, explored a farmer's market, ate delicious meals, met interesting people, and most importantly we both really relaxed.

I encourage you to unplug this weekend. Whether it's for an hour, a day or the whole weekend. Notice how it feels to unplug from the immediacy of email and smart phones.  Give yourself a break from instant and repetitive news for one day.  Notice the time you have then, to do other things – or maybe do absolutely nothing. Liberating, isn't it?

With the amazing technology we have access to today, we need to remember that it's still our choice when we use it.

It is still a beautiful world

This inspiring poem was sent to me this morning and I wanted to share it with you.  Each time I read it, I discover something new that moves and comforts me.  Even though it was written many years ago, like other classics, the message is never out of date.

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Copyright 1952

A Whale of a Story

Humans helping an animal in distress, and the beautiful creature showing its gratitude in such a spectacular way.  It's a moving and inspiring story.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBYPlcSD490

Shine your light

Living life fully is a topic that has come up in recent articles I've read and conversations I've had.  When that sort of synchronicity happens, it's a cue for me to look deeper.  This inspiring quote is one of my favorites, and it expresses the concept beautifully. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

by Marianne Williamson from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

Stay Cool

For those of you in the Southern US or anywhere east of the Rockies (Canada & US), this is for you, in hopes it will help you stay cool.  Go grab a Popsicle and think about - ice, ice..... 
(It's tough not to think you're 'cool' after watching this video. )

If you're already cool, consider this a good excuse to take a time out; a few minutes for a trip back to a simpler time and a strong beat (chair dancing is encouraged!).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rog8ou-ZepE&ob=av2e

Getting Un-stuck

It's been an interesting week. I felt stuck. Where and with what isn't important. What's been interesting to me is what I've been doing with the feeling of 'stuckness'.

If I were driving my car and got stuck in the mud – what would I do? I'd use the resources I have around me – stay calm and figure out the best route out of the situation. Maybe I need to rock the car back and forth to find solid ground. Maybe I need to get out of the car, step back and have a look at the situation from a new angle. There could be an easier route that I couldn't see earlier.

If my wheels are still in the mud after all that, and I've done everything I can do to become un-stuck, my next move is to call for help. Someone to help push or pull me out, or offer suggestions or new ideas. If that doesn't work – it's time to call BCAA and a tow truck.

Looking at this last week of feeling stuck, I realize that life is kind of like that, too. Feeling stuck doesn't mean I am without help. Trying to get myself out of the stuckness did feel a bit like I was spinning my wheels. After a few days of that, I stepped out, looked around and realized I needed some help. Reaching out and asking for a 'push' (from a trusted source) was what helped me dig out of the mire and now feel like I can move again.

We all feel stuck from time to time. Rather than spin our wheels or give up on the car altogether, it's ok to ask for help. Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge to get unstuck, so we can continue on our journey.


The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking places. ~Author Unknown

Simple Joys

Watermelon = Summertime.

Sweet, juicy and fragrant.

I love the bright red color of the fruit and that it's kind of messy to eat. It takes me back to being a little girl, standing on the lawn in the back yard on a warm summer evening. Yay, watermelon for dessert! I picture myself as a 6 year old girl, wearing my bathing suit, flip flops and a big grin, holding the watermelon wedge with both hands, taking big mouthfuls with gusto and feeling the juice all over my cheeks and chin. Then I'd see how far I could shoot the seeds into the back lane. It was one of life's simple joys. Just imagining it takes me back there now and I can't help but smile.

What's one of your life's simple joys?

Counting Our Blessings

When we were little, most of us were told by our parents to count our blessings before going to sleep.  At the time it might have seemed like a chore, but now it occurs to me that it was really a great habit to encourage.

How often do we count our blessings?  How often do we feel grateful for what we have, rather than worry about what we don't have?

Hmmmmmmm.  Makes me think. 

I'm going to start today, to count my blessings.   How about you?

Tonight, just before you fall asleep, think of five things you are grateful for.  Five things, or people, or experiences, events or gifts (good health counts as a gift, btw).  It doesn't matter what they are.  Choose five (or more, if you like).  Ponder each blessing for a few moments; what is it and why are you grateful for it?  Notice what occurs inside of you when you think about each blessing. 

Gratitude is powerful.  It can change how we view our surroundings and our life.

Happy Canada Day!

Happy Canada Day.  One of the only reasons I watch hockey games on TV is to hear the National Anthem sung.  I love to sing along and doing so always makes me feel good.  I am proud to be a Canadian.

O Canada!

Our home and native land!
True patriot love in all thy sons command.

With glowing hearts we see thee rise,
The True North strong and free!

From far and wide,
O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.

God keep our land glorious and free!
O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.

O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.


Check out this link for the French lyrics, recordings of the song and more about Canadian Heritage.
http://www.pch.gc.ca/pgm/ceem-cced/symbl/anthem-eng.cfm

Early Mornings

One of the benefits of living in Canada is that summer days are super long – with the sun rising at about 5:30 am and setting around 9:00pm.

Mornings, at this time of year, are so beautiful. There's a softness to the air, and a promising newness to the day that is announced with joyful birdsong. Where ever you live, I encourage you to experience sunrise this week. You may find that once you do, you will want to continue waking early.

It's so peaceful and quiet at 5:30am. It gives me time to feel more connected to nature; to calmly reflect on my life and what my goals are; to appreciate the things I have, and yes, to really enjoy that first cup of coffee. It is a part of the day that I have fully, completely to myself. Awakening at that hour allows me to greet the day at my own pace; feeling calm, I'm ready to welcome the rest of the day and all that it holds. 

Since I live in the city, this photo helps me in imagining what an early morning at the ocean holds.  You might find it helpful, too.

(Summer on the Sunshine Coast, BC - 6am or so)

Picture yourself on a deck, the cool, soft morning air surrounds you like a gentle blanket.  It's so peaceful and quiet here; there are only the sounds of small songbirds twittering with joy and the sound of waves gently lapping against the shore below.  Close your eyes and take a deep breath in.......ahhhhhhhh. Let all the air out of your lungs and notice how your shoulders begin to relax. Take 3 or 4 more breaths like that, filling your lungs with the cool, fresh, cleansing ocean air.  As the sun rises and warms up the day, things seem to appear brighter.  What a beautiful way to begin the day.

Your One Wild and Precious Life

The Summer Day

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
Mary Oliver

http://www.poets.org/poet.php/prmPID/265

Cue's & Mis-takes

I read this quote on another Blog this morning and wanted to pass it on.
http://philosophersnotes.com/

"Even enlightened beings burn their bagels once in a while. It’s important to maintain a sense of humor because this is how you will stop being afraid of making a mistake. You’ll make some, but so what? That’s why they’re called mis-takes. Humor relaxes the uptight ego. You get a new cue from your inner Self and simply say, ‘I missed my cue, so let’s do a second take.’Your willingness to take the risk of making a mistake is actually an expression of courage and a willingness to grow from them. Mistakes are about getting the blessing in the lesson and the lesson in the blessing.”

Michael Beckwith
http://www.agapelive.com/index.php?page=3

Above all Have a Good Time!

I visited Washington, DC last week. Among the many amazing sights to see there are some great museums. One is the American History Museum, which displays Julia Child's 'kitchen' from the set of her long-past PBS TV shows. It was a thrill to see this display and it reminded me of why I have such a high regard for her. She had such a lust for life.

Julia persevered no matter how many times she was told 'No'. She was open-minded, experimented and, tried new things.  She learned new languages, adapted to new cultures and found new ways of doing things. To me, she seemed fearless. Ultimately, she persevered and kept doing what she loved to do.  When she'd make a mistake – like dropping a chicken on the kitchen floor, she'd laugh, pick the bird back up, brush if off and keep cooking.  I admire her zest and joie de vivre – her willingness to do what she really wanted to do, even when others said it couldn't be done. Sadly, she's not on the planet anymore, but she continues to inspire, through books (cookbooks and otherwise), a wonderful current film (Julie & Julia), DVDs of her cooking shows and this terrific display.

The quote shown in this photo is really how she felt about cooking – but it could easily be interpreted as how she lived her life.

What a great motto to live by.

Who inspires you?

Find Your Grail!

Monty Python might not be everyone's cuppa tea, but I love the message in this song from Spamalot. Find your Grail!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yRlnSgu-bY&feature=related

Be Teachable

"It's a mistake for anyone to think that he has lived too long in his old, unsatisfactory ways to make a great change.  If you switch on the light in a dark room, it makes no difference how long it was dark because the light will still shine.  Be teachable.  That is the whole secret."
Vernon Howard from "The Power of Your Supermind".

http://www.anewlife.org/html/home.html

Sing, Dance, Praise, Love

"May today be peace within.  May you trust your highest power that you are exactly where you are meant to be.  May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.  May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.  May you be content knowing you are a child of God.  Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of you."
Mother Theresa

Arctic Light

Here is a beautiful tribute to light, something we (in the Northern Hemisphere) get to enjoy more of in the month of June.  Be sure to have your speakers on, the music is a lovely compliment to the time-lapse photography.

The photographer is Terje Sorgjerd. 


http://vimeo.com/24456787

Care Without Carrying

Earlier today I was thinking about my tendency to want to fix things for those I love (my family and friends) and realized that I was doing them a disservice.

It occurred to me that I can still care about them and the events in their lives, but I don't need to carry their worries or concerns. I've got to back off, and respect that we each have the ability to deal with whatever life serves up.

We are each responsible for our own 'stuff'.

Rather than swooping in and offering up my opinion, I will listen more and do my best to wait until it's been asked for. Of course I will continue to care for those close to me, and if they ask, jump to their side and help in what ever way I can. That will not change.

I can still care without carrying.

Amazing

This is an amazing story about a young man with the desire to improve his life – and the lives of others.
http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/TopStories/20110525/blind-echolocation-kish-110525/

He re-wired (or re-programmed) his brain.  Wow.

Here's more on the term, Neuroplasticity.
http://memoryzine.com/2010/07/02/introduction-to-neuroplasticity/

Our thoughts are powerful.

Congratulations!

In an earlier post, we explored advice that we'd give ourselves, if we could travel back in time.

Here's something else along that line.

If you could travel back in time, what events or actions are you most proud of? Take a few moments and really think back. What stands out? It could be an achievement (grad, promotion, overcoming an obstacle, winning a race, reaching a goal) OR, it could be a single moment when you did something outstanding (made a hard decision, told a great joke well, delivered on a promise, gave something without expecting anything back) and positively impacted another person's life or changed your own.

Remember the feeling of satisfaction or pride in your actions or words?

We've got to celebrate those moments more often. I'm not saying there needs to be a parade and fireworks every time, but a celebration or acknowledgment of an accomplishment will go a long way in helping us enjoy life more. Those events are part of what made us who we are today.

When was the last time you actually celebrated an achievement or success of your own making?

I encourage you to think about one thing that you are proud of in your life, a success, an achievement, overcoming a challenge, something that you've done to the best of your ability. Then pat yourself on the back and say “Well done!” Take it further if you want (make a list of multiple successes – or celebrate one in a big way), but start there – simply congratulate yourself for doing one thing really well and notice how good it feels. When you've got that, choose another one.

Maybe you think it silly to do this, but imagine your best friend, or someone you love doing something worthy of a sincere 'Well done!' It's easy to congratulate them, right? Why shouldn't we do the same thing for ourselves?

Weekend Earworm

A fun trip back in time with Lionel Richie. This song's a party, a Fiesta for the ears and it makes me want to dance.
Enjoy!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QiLziusKW4s

Flower or Weed?

During a recent conversation with a dear friend, one of the topics that came up was Flowers VS Weeds. What's the difference and how can we tell? A lot of weeds have flowers. They can be delicate, colorful and attract bees - just like (official) flowers. So, why do we pull some out of our garden, and leave others. It made me think about how we look at things.... and reminds me of the old adage 'one persons trash is another's treasure'. Maybe it's the same with Flowers VS Weeds, and other things that come up in our lives. If we think something in a 'flower', to us, it is.

I choose to see this lovely little plant as a flower. The purple against the white and the dark green is beautiful to me. Someone else might laugh, tell me it's a weed and suggest I pull it out.

Maybe, but ultimately, it's my garden, and I get to choose what is in it.

Time travel

A video that went viral earlier this week (Dear 16 year Old Me - see link below) got me thinking about how often I've said, “If I'd known then what I know now, I would have done things differently.”
Ha. I've lost count of the times.

But, it makes me wonder – If I could travel back in time, what would I tell my younger self?  Back to when I was in High School with the self-consciousness and the rejection (oh the tears)..... when at 21, I unintentionally broke someone's heart, then at 25 when I discovered my boyfriend (who I was madly in love with) was unfaithful.  Those times when I settled for less than what I knew I deserved, when I did things (that didn't feel quite right) for fear of being rejected or alone.

What advice would I give myself if I could go back to those moments?

Yes, I know I can't travel back in time – and I understand that all of my life's experiences have led up to this moment in time.  Perhaps I would have been a different person if I'd done things differently.   I am now much more clear about who I am and I feel a compassion for myself (and all of my foibles) that I didn't have then.  I like who I am now, so I have no regrets.

But - if I could go back,  I would console myself, tell myself that I was doing the best I could – that 'he didn't deserve me anyway' and that I do deserve to be treated with respect.  I'd laugh at myself more and realize that those 'character building experiences' were worth it. I'd remind myself to stay true to my heart and values and that I would succeed by doing things in my own, unique way.   I'd encourage myself to stay emotionally open, knowing that I would eventually meet a very special man who loves me for who I am.   I would give myself a hug with the reassuring words, 'It's all going to work out for the best.  Relax and try not take things personally, or yourself so seriously." *

Wow.  These are all things I would say to my best friend. And that, in itself is a big shift for me - from self-criticism to compassion.

So, maybe the experiences we have in life are like arrows along the way, guiding us to a clearer understanding of who we are?  Hmmmm.  That certainly helps me look at the experiences I'll have today (and the future) in a new and much more positive light.

* By the way – props to my mom, who reminded me of these things all through my life. I'm sure she'd be very happy to know that I finally listened.

Here's a link to that video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4jgUcxMezM

So - what would you say to yourself if you could go back in time? What advice would you give the younger you?

The Kindness of Strangers

Some days, gestures of kindness show up, exactly when we need them.
Today was one of those days.

Imagine this - It's early morning; a cool and very rainy day in Vancouver; my car won't start, so I figure I'll take the bus; I get a seat, and later notice my umbrella has left a huge wet spot on my lap; my feet are soaked, because somehow along the way I've managed to step in a big puddle and I'm running late for an appointment.......... I'm sure you get the picture.

The route to my appointment required me to take 2 buses.  As the bus I was on arrived at the stop I needed to get my connection, I noticed my 'next' bus had just turned the corner.  Once off the first bus I sprinted and got to the next bus stop just in time to see my connection leave (without me on it).   Oh no!

But, here's where things get much better.

For some reason, I kept running and much to my surprise, I saw the bus pull over about 1/2 block ahead (not at a bus stop)..... I couldn't quite believe my eyes.  I kept running and as I got closer, the bus doors opened, and the driver smiled at me.  I smiled back, thanked him, paid and got on. 

Wow, what a nice thing to do.  I don't know what the 'rules' are for bus drivers, but they don't normally pick people up unless they're at a bus stop.

He didn't have to, but the bus driver went out of his way to help a complete stranger.  The gesture; the kindness did not go unnoticed.

I made it to my meeting a few minutes early, and feeling happy.  If nothing else, it is clear to me how easily we can make a positive difference in someone's life.  It can be as simple as a smile, an offer of help, or an unexpected kindness.

Another Earworm

Another Monday - another catchy (and really fun) Earworm.
This one is from Michael Franti and Spearhead.
Enjoy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehu3wy4WkHs

Express Yourself

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique.

Martha Graham

Earworm for a Rainy Monday

Sheryl Crow helps make a rainy Monday seem sunnier.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIYiGA_rIls

Plunge in

"It seems that the necessary thing to do is not to fear mistakes, to plunge in, to do the best that one can, hoping to learn enough from blunders to correct them eventually."
Abraham Maslow

http://www.maslow.com/

Beginner's Grace

The grace to be a beginner is always the best prayer for an artist. The beginner’s humility and openness lead to exploration. Exploration leads to accomplishment. All of it begins at the beginning, with the first small and scary step.
Julia Cameron

http://www.theartistsway.com/

I see this quote as speaking to each one of us. Whether or not you consider yourself an artist, creating is something we do every day. We choose our medium (or media) and create – every single day. I believe we are each creative (and thus, an artist) in our own way. In fact, you are doing it right now. You are using your thoughts to create. Every day you contribute something to the people around you, in your actions, and words. 

 

When the day offers you something new, allow yourself the grace to be a beginner and approach the opportunity with openness and curiosity.   Notice what the results are when you take that step.

Sweet-Spot in Time

On a recent lazy, sunny Sunday afternoon, my husband and I did something we haven't done in years. We dug out our baseball mitts and a ball and walked over to a nearby park to throw the ball around. We used to play a lot of slow-pitch, but it's been a while.

We began to warm up by tossing the ball gingerly (well, at least I did). With each throw, my confidence grew.  As we continued to throw the ball to each other with more strength (and accuracy), a natural rhythm began; step, throw, catch; step, throw, catch...... step, throw, catch; step, throw catch. After a few minutes, I found myself grinning and couldn't quite figure out why – but then it came to me. I was there, 'in the moment', having fun and it felt great. Throwing and catching the ball was all I was thinking about; it was all I was doing. Step, throw, catch; step, throw, catch.  I was feeling the joy of doing one thing.  Maybe focusing on, and doing one thing at a time is what is meant by being 'in the moment'.  To me it was a sweet-spot in time.

Our days are so full, and often we're wrapped up in multi-tasking; running around, doing as many things as possible - and all at once.    When was the last time you did one thing at a time?  Try it out for yourself today.  Choose an activity you enjoy and see how it feels to do that, and only that.  Treat yourself to feeling that sweet-spot in time, even if it's only a few minutes.

Beautiful Time Lapse Video

The Mountain by Terje Sorgjerd

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lMZ3fKDREJA&feature=fvsr

Inspiration

Take a few moments and think about a person who inspires you. Who is the first to come to mind?  It might be someone you know well, or it could be a stranger.  Maybe they're a historic figure or a character from a novel.  It could be someone famous, someone who's changed the world - or simply someone who's changed your world. 

Once you've got that person in your mind, ask yourself what it is about them that you admire.  What made you think of them?  Why are they compelling?  What are their traits and attributes? What are their values?   What do you like about them?  What makes them inspiring to you?  How do you feel when you think about what they've done - and how they lived their life?  What impresses you most?

So – now that you've got that – what does this mean for you?  Do you aspire to be more like that person?  Are their traits, attributes and values something you foster in your own life?   If yes, think about how you do this.  Is it something you consciously do?  During a challenging experience, have you asked yourself 'What would (Your Inspiring Person) do in this situation"?

Now notice how you are like that person.  There's a very good chance you already have those traits, attributes and values – since you've recognized, and admired them in someone else. 

When we are asked about what our best traits are – it can be a tough question to answer.  But it's a great question to ask.   How do we see ourselves?  What is important to us?  How do we want to live our life?

Sometimes it's easier to recognize these things in others first, before we can acknowledge and appreciate them in ourselves.  Once we do – we can foster and nurture those traits; live more in line with what's really important to us.  We've been inspired, and maybe by expressing those traits and values, we can in turn inspire someone else.

Walk in the Garden

How about treating yourself to a walk in a beautiful garden today? Even if you can't get to one outside, you can imagine it. This photo might help, too.

See yourself stepping into this lovely scene - the air is fresh and kind of tangy from the recent rain. Take a deep breath in and become aware of a soft breeze that brings the delicate scent of new grass, early spring flowers and the damp earth. You begin to see the flowers now and all of their vibrant colors. Yellow and orange Tulips, the bright green of new growth. It's a spectacular, vivid show of color. Take a closer look and notice the amazing variety of green and other, unexpected hues – the deep reds and purples, the delicate pinks.  What else do you notice now that you are here?

Take another deep breath, and continue to walk along the path.  Become aware of how you are already beginning to relax more now. Roll your shoulders back and down, and notice how good it feels to be able to take even deeper and more satisfying breaths now. As you stand quietly, you begin to perceive other things in the garden. The sound of birds. They are singing and twittering and chasing each other around the garden. It's springtime.  Nature is renewing itself and you find yourself feeling refreshed and relaxed here.

As you keep walking, deeper into the garden, from time to time you take a closer look at the flowers.  and discover a new shape or color or flower.  From this fresh angle you have found something beautiful that was hidden before.   How does it feel to discover something new and vibrant? 

Eventually, when you feel ready, find a comfortable place to sit down – a bench, or a lounge chair, or maybe you want to sit on the grass. Notice how relaxed and peaceful you are in this garden, and that your breathing has slowed down even more. Fill your lungs with the fresh spring air and as you exhale, allow all of your senses to really let go.

Close your eyes and spend a few moments here, in this beautiful, serene place. Breathe it all in and become aware of how much more rested and refreshed you feel.

Photo Credit:  T Hopkins

Powerful Words

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

Maya Angelou

 

For more quotes from Ms. Angelou, click on this link

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/m/maya_angelou.html

Apache Blessing

May the sun
Bring you new energy by day,
May the moon
Softly restore you by night,
May the rain
Wash away your worries,
May the breeze
Blow new strength into your being.
May you walk
Gently through the world and know
Its beauty all the days of your life.

Power Words

Over the past few weeks, I've noticed 3 specific words that keep appearing everywhere; in articles and books that I read, in conversations I have and interviews that I hear.   And now I have found that I'm purposely looking for those words, expecting them to pop up.   

What causes this phenomenon?  Sometimes it's after the 1st time we hear the word used, or we learn the word through the course of studying something new.  Or maybe we see something differently and the new word describes this new opinion, attitude, viewpoint or shift in focus.  It could be a word we already know, but the new use of it is different or now has more meaning.  If nothing else, this new word has certainly made us take notice and has sparked our curiosity. 

I mentioned this to a colleague, and she suggested that I dig a little deeper.  She called the words 'Power Words', and encouraged me to explore some more about what those words mean to me and how I might want to incorporate them into my work.  I'm very curious about where that will lead.  Why these 3 words, and why now?

Have you recently noticed a new word and then discovered it's everywhere?  What is the word?  Where did you first discover it?  Where are you seeing or hearing it now?  How do you feel when you use it, when you see it written or hear it spoken by someone?  

Maybe it's just a passing interest or the thrill of learning a new word.  Or maybe it's more.  If there an inner 'Hmmmmm' or 'Aha' when you notice the word,  it might be fun to do some exploring.  Find quotes and articles with the word; use it when you're communicating with people and watch their reaction, listen for it during conversations.  Notice when it keeps coming up and in what circumstance.  You'll know if it's worth taking further - but either way, you've added something new to your vocabulary.

Here's a fun link with a bit more on the subject

 http://1000awesomethings.com/2010/04/20/523-when-you-learn-a-new-word-and-then-suddenly-start-seeing-it-everywhere/

If you'd like to learn more about Power Words and their use, send me an email and I will forward you my colleague's contact information.

A Bob Update

Here's Bob April 3rd/11.  After 5 days away, I returned home to this beauty.

When I left, last week, the buds were still tightly wrapped, so I was surprised and very happy when I saw these big, red blossoms.  My patience has definitely been rewarded.

Tuesday's Earworm

An enjoyable song, courtesy of Jason Mraz.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHTsc9PU2A

Intent

At a presentation held few weeks ago, this thought provoking quote was used, and it has stuck with me ever since.


"The way we do anything is the way we do everything."


Wow - it's certainly cause for pause.   It's made me look at my actions and the intent behind them.  How do I do things (the little things and the big things)?  How do I treat people, handle challenges and deal with my daily 'stuff'?


If you'd like to read the entire piece, click the link below.

http://www.portalstopeace.com/All%20Quotes%20Categorized/Wisdom%20&%20Knowledge/The%20Way%20we%20Do%20Anything/The%20Way%20we%20do%20Anything.htm

Bob's Lesson in Patience

This is Bob. His entire name is actually Camellia japonica ‘Bob Hope’.

Last year, I carefully replanted Bob to this new location in the garden. All through the winter I worried about him getting through the cold with all his leaves and limbs attached. I was surprised and thrilled to see that he's full of flower buds this Spring.

Look at those buds! They're gorgeous and there are so many of them.

So - now I wait (impatiently) for the buds to open up. Every day I walk by him and encourage and cajole..... cheer-lead and try to persuade...... “Come on Bob, open up those buds and show me your flowers.” 

You can imagine the response.

I'm not at the point of showing him a picture, but if I did, it would look like this. 

Here is where Bob's lesson in patience comes in. I know  I've done everything I can (chosen the new spot carefully, watered faithfully all summer, used fertilizer, covered him up in winter, etc), and now it's up to nature.  Just because I want Bob to bloom now won't make it happen.  Bob cannot be forced to blossom. No matter what I say or do, Bob's gonna bloom when he's good and ready – when the time is right. And when it does happen, the flowers will be beautiful.

I'm laughing as I write this, but I'm reminded of other times in my life that I try to force things to happen when I want them to. And, when they don't, I fret and worry.

Bob's teaching me a great lesson in patience and 'letting go'. When I've done everything I can, and there's no more I can do, worrying and fretting will not affect the outcome.  I've got to let go.  In some cases, my agenda and schedule just don't matter.

So, I'm going to practice patience and 'letting go' this week.... of course I will start with some 'small stuff' and I will prepare and do what ever I can to achieve my goal, but once that's done, I'm going to remember Bob's lesson. I'm going to practice being patient; 'let go' of the desire to have the outcome happen 'now', and allow things to happen naturally.... and I guess we'll see what happens...... maybe the result will be even better than I'd expected.

Spring has Sprung

In celebration of the first day of Spring (Vernal Equinox in the Northern Hemisphere), here are some random thoughts and a couple of photos taken in Vancouver, BC March 20/11.

This is my favorite time of year. There's a bit more daylight, the temperature is little warmer, the air seems cleansed and the songbirds have returned. I've always felt that it is a time of renewal, and fresh starts.

Spring is sprung,
the grass is riz,
I wonder where the boidies is.
They say the boid is on the wing.
But that's absoid.
The wing is on the boid.

Writer unknown


I invite you to take a few moments and reflect on the things you like most about Spring. Is it the fresh air after a rain shower, or the joy of planning and planting a garden? Maybe it's the fact that there's now a bit more daylight every day; feeling the warmth of gentle sunshine on your face; the sound of birdsong; the discovery of vivid, light green tree buds that seem to appear overnight?

What is it about this time of year makes you feel good?


Here are some Spring rituals from around the world
http://www.copdandsomuchmore.com/springworld.html

Choice

Recently, I had the opportunity to hear Wayne Dyer speak, and during his inspiring presentation, he quoted from this poem by Portia Nelson. The words and message have stayed with me for days.

THERE'S A HOLE IN MY SIDEWALK
Autobiography in Five Short Chapters
By Portia Nelson


Chapter One
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost .... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.


Chapter Two
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend that I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.


Chapter Three
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.


Chapter Four
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.


Chapter Five
I walk down another street.

An Expression of Joy

A father and son show us a genuine expression of joy..... their joy of dance.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4fPHt0FjEU

Correction - that's Beachcombing

Just got a note to correct my spelling.
Ooops.
As a West Coast gal, I really should know how to spell beachcombing.
Apologies to Nick and the gang.

Beach Combing

It's a beautiful, warm, sunny day, and the ocean is beckoning. Pack up what you need, and let's go to the beach.

As you arrive at the shore, there's a gentle breeze against your face. From here you can already hear the rush of the waves, the roar of the surf, and seagulls calling to each other.

Take off your shoes. Feel the sand under your feet - it is the perfect temperature, and you feel comfortable. Stand there for a moment and notice how your feet sink into the in the dry, warm sand. Now look down at your feet and wiggle your toes and watch the sand slide off the tops of your feet and in between your toes. Do that a couple more times, digging your toes into the sand, and then lifting them up and watching the sand slide off of them. Ahhhhh, it feels like a mini foot massage.

Look up and towards the water. See where the water meets the sand? Notice how the waves come up the beach towards you, and how smooth the sand's surface is when the water recedes. Watch the waves for a few moments, as they move in and out.....and listen. What do you hear? The ocean has it's own rhythm. Listen closely to the sounds of the waves. It might be a gentle lapping, wooshing sound or more of a roar. What ever it is, just notice it. Take a deep breath and now there's a hint of salt in the air.

As you continue to breath, you find yourself slowly walking towards the water. You walk until you've reach the point where the waves meet the sand. Stop here and notice how different the texture of the sand is now. It's firm and wet, and when you look down you notice that your feet leave an impression. Turn right and begin walking along the tidal line of the beach. Take another deep breath. There's moisture in the air, and the sound of the surf is a little louder. What else to you hear now? More sea birds perhaps? Are there other people enjoying the surf today?

Continue walking and beach combing. You discover an interesting sea-shell or stone, or even sea-glass on the sand, out in front of you. Bend down and pick it up – hold it in your hand and take a look at it. Brush the sand away – you might even want to wash the sand off in the surf. It's glistening now, and the colors seem so vibrant and rich. Notice any other details about it. The shape, the texture, the weight of it in your hand. Turn it over in your palm and look at it from this other side. What do you discover?

Place the treasure in your pocket, or keep holding it in your hand as you continue on your walk. Walk for as long as you'd like.

Notice how good you feel and how relaxed you are after taking a few moments to enjoy the simple pleasure of walking along the beach on such a glorious day.

Earworm of the Day

earworm [ˈɪəˌwɜːm] noun
Def:  (Music / Pop Music) Informal an irritatingly catchy tune

Here's a fun video of Feist performing “1, 2, 3, 4” (with a twist)

Click the link below and enjoy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZ9WiuJPnNA&feature=related

Laughter is the Best Medicine

Laughter makes us feel good, and the bonus is that it's also good for our health.  Not an original idea or thought – but one that's great to revisit.

Alright, since it's Friday, let's have some fun.  Take a look back at your week and think of one thing that made you laugh or smile; one thing that you thought was humorous or funny. If there's more than one, that's great. Think of as many as you can. Take your time. It doesn't have to be a knee slapper, it could be a simple little moment or a turn of phrase or event. Spend some time there, and you could even find yourself smiling or even chuckling now, as you remember it.

If that's a challenge.... create something humorous right now. What makes you laugh or smile? Do you have a favourite joke? Is there a comedian that makes you laugh if you hear or see their routine? If slap-stick humour or clips of cute animals tickles you, there's an endless amount of video on Youtube available. Go find it now.

Here's some interesting info about laughter (as per a health website):

*Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
*Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.
*Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.
*Laughter protects the heart. Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

Read more here: http://www.helpguide.org/life/humor_laughter_health.htm

How about incorporating at least one good laugh into your day? Start this weekend and take it into next week. Imagine how much easier Monday will feel when it begins with a laugh.

Biggest Thrill

Someone recently asked me an interesting question. What is my biggest thrill?

The question's really got me thinking. There are a few definitions..... In this case, I like it as a verb – here's a definition from www.thefreedictionary.com


Thrill (verb)

1. To cause to feel a sudden intense sensation; excite greatly.

2. To give great pleasure to; delight.

3. To cause to quiver, tremble, or vibrate.


As I contemplate the question – I keep thinking back to the way I felt as a small child, back to a moment I discovered something new. What I discovered doesn't matter – but the sensation of discovery does. Continuing to think back to that time, I imagine seeing my little face, smiling and lit up with delight and wonder. That open and genuine wonder of a child. I hear that little girl giggling with excitement and she's jumping for joy. I recall the warmth of having experienced something for the 1st time. It felt good from my head to my toes; like I had won some sort of prize.


So - what's your biggest thrill? Take a moment today and ask yourself that question. You may find yourself drifting back to childhood, or it could be something you experienced more recently. Notice what it is, and how you recognize the feeling of being thrilled - enjoy it. Imagine yourself experiencing the feeling, right there, doing what ever it is, seeing what's around you, and hearing what you'd hear; notice the sensations and how you feel inside. Take a deep breath and really be there.


Give yourself the gift of staying there for a few more breaths and notice how that feeling stays with you. Embrace it.

Gotta Dance

Here's a visual and musical treat.
No matter how many times I watch this, my toes start tapping and I find myself smiling.

Turn up your speakers and enjoy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYL3j27sSH8

Birdbath

When you look at this photo – what do you see first? The bird, its reflection, the frog, the water, the birdbath?

Now take a closer look. What else do you see? Notice the other more subtle things, the reflections of sky and trees on the water, and the ripples on the surface – as if the bird has just taken a drink or jumped out after taking a quick bath. What else do you see? Some tiny blossoms in the right corner or the photo, and others over on the left, the green of the surrounding garden, the twigs of plants that will soon have bright green leaves. It's so much more than a birdbath.

Settle in and listen – what do you hear? It's quiet and tranquil here, except for some birdsong. The sweet sound of the little sparrow, calling to other birds that it's safe to come over and enjoy the water. Nothing else here but a stone frog..... it's safe and peaceful.

The air is cool, refreshing and clean. It's as if it's been cleansed by a spring rain. Take a deep breath of that sweet smell, fill your lungs with that delicious scent of fresh, clean air.

You might even close your eyes now and notice that the scent becomes sweeter with your next breath in - and now you hear the sounds of other birds flying in – the quick flapping of their little wings, their cheeps and excited twitters as they happily join their friend at the birdbath. In a few moments, the birdbath is a busy place, and you hear their wings splashing in the water - and then just as quickly as they arrived, they scatter and gently settle into the surrounding trees.

And you've enjoyed a few moments of serenity.

Photo credit: T Hopkins

The Dock

Imagine that you are standing at a lake shore, looking out towards the calm water and this sturdy, solid dock. It's a gentle summer morning, and you've arrived at this place early enough in the day that you are the only person here. This is your personal dock. You smile and stretch. Ahhhhhh. What a beautiful place to be. The air is fresh and clean here. As you inhale, you notice that there's a touch of moisture in the morning air. It's so soft, so refreshing, you take another deep breath in.

This is a peaceful place. There's a gentle breeze and the only thing you hear is the water lapping against the shore, and some birdsong off in the distance. Take a moment and enjoy the quiet.

You take another deep breath in and begin to walk towards the end of the dock. You can see that the water is calm, with tiny waves moving along the surface of the water. You feel safe and continue to walk comfortably along this well-built dock. With each step you take, you hear the wood creak gently under your feet and you begin to feel even more relaxed.

After four or five strides you find yourself at the end of the dock. From here, you look down into the crystal clear, clean water. You can see all the way to the bottom of the lake and notice some big fish swimming lazily past, small fish darting around, plants waving with the current, rocks and sand lining the lake floor. You marvel at all of the things you can see under the surface of the lake.

You sit down comfortably on the edge of the dock and take your shoes off (if you're wearing any). Dangle your feet over the edge of the dock and notice the initial chill of the water against your toes and the soles of your feet. It's revitalizing, and after a little while, you find the temperature becomes perfect, so you relax and let your feet and ankles slip under the surface of the water. Ahhhh. That feels good. Your feet feel refreshed. You begin to kick your feet and splash water, seeing droplets fly through the air. Some land on your skin others end up on the dock and others return to the lake. This is fun! Your skin is tingling from the water, and you feel happy and rejuvenated. This is a place you can come back to whenever you want to recharge your batteries.

The Bee

Take a moment and look at this photo.

Imagine that it's summer time and you are sitting in a field of lavender, the sun is shining warmly, the temperature is perfect; perhaps there's even a slight breeze. It's ideal. The bee is so interested in the flowers and doing its job of collecting pollen that it doesn't even notice you. You can watch the bee comfortably and safely from where you are.

Notice the scent of the flowers – take a deep breath in and enjoy the calming scent of fresh lavender. You might see yourself reaching towards another lavender plant; touching the leaves and blossoms, and releasing the fragrance of the plant. Take another deep breath in of that calming scent. Now imagine reaching down and grasping some soil with your hands, feel the texture of it, hold it in your palms and notice that the sun has warmed it. Open your fingers wide and allow the soil to fall back to the ground. Notice how good it feels to be sitting on the earth seeing the flowers from this angle. Finally, take note of what you hear. The breeze might be bringing some faint sounds of laughter along with it, but it's so quiet here, so peaceful that you can hear the buzzing of the bee's wings. You can hear the bee's wings humming.

The bee is doing what bees do best.

Watch the bee as it zips from blossom to blossom. Notice its focus and attention to each flower. Then, when its collected all it can, see it fly off, as it returns to the hive and leaves you enjoying this quiet, fragrant, peaceful garden.

You've just given yourself a gift. You've taken a step towards learning how to relax, how to refocus your attention to something peaceful.